What Happens When Your Light Triggers People (And How to Stay in Your Power)
Have you ever held yourself back because you were afraid of how others might react?
Maybe you didn’t share your good news because you worried it would make someone jealous.
Or you softened your spiritual growth because you feared it would unsettle a loved one.
Perhaps you even felt that if you showed your full self, people would misunderstand you, reject you, or quietly turn against you.
If that feels familiar, you’re not alone. So many of us carry this fear — from childhood, from our families, and sometimes from lifetimes before this one.
But here’s what I want you to know: your expansion doesn’t have to trigger people. It can mesmerize them. It can inspire them.
When you embody your full self, you don’t just grow — you invite others to grow…
When you embody your full self, you don’t just grow: you open the door for others to grow too.
Why Expansion Feels So Scary
When you expand, you shine a light on what others may not yet be ready to face. That can make them uncomfortable. But often, the discomfort you fear is amplified by your own nervous system.
Research shows that social rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain (Eisenberger & Lieberman, 2004).
That means the fear of being misunderstood isn’t “just in your head.” To your body, it feels as real as a broken bone.
In reality, this fear shows up in ways you probably know well:
You hold back your real opinions in meetings or friendships.
You shrink your joy so others won’t feel left behind.
You rehearse what to say (or stay silent entirely) to avoid being misinterpreted.
You play down your dreams because you’re afraid of being called unrealistic.
These are the everyday moments where the fear of rejection lives. And over time, they can convince you that staying small is safer than expanding.
But here’s what often gets missed: growth doesn’t only trigger fear. It can also spark admiration.
Reframe From Trigger to Fascination
Here’s the shift.
Your light doesn’t have to repel. It can attract.
Neuroscience research on mirror neurons shows that when we see someone act with courage or joy, our own brains fire as if we’re doing it too (Gallese, 2001).
This is why seeing someone dance freely, speak boldly, or create something new makes us feel something stir inside.
The same happens when you shine.
People aren’t always against your light. Sometimes they’re fascinated by it, even if it comes out clumsily as discomfort.
“When you let your own light shine, you unconsciously give others permission to do the same.”
~ Nelson Mandela
Your light doesn’t just light up for you. It awakens possibility in others.
The Power of Awe
UC Berkeley research shows that experiencing awe makes people more generous, connected, and open to new ideas (Keltner & Haidt, 2003).
Awe stretches us beyond our small fears and reconnects us to something bigger.
When you embody expansion (not just talk about it, but live it), you create awe. You move from being “too much” to being magnetic.
And that’s why your growth isn’t selfish. It’s service.
Embodying Your Light
Here are simple ways to practice inspiring others instead of fearing their reactions:
1. Visualize Admiration, Not Attack
In meditation, picture yourself standing fully expanded in a crowd. Imagine people smiling, clapping, or quietly admiring your courage.
2. Ground Into Safety
Expansion feels steadier when you root into Earth. Walk barefoot, sit under a tree, or simply breathe deeply outdoors. Grounding tells your body:“It’s safe to be seen.”
3. Use Inviting Affirmations
Instead of “I won’t dim my light,” try:“My light awakens light in others.”
4. Reframe Reactions
When someone seems triggered, ask:“What if this is fascination disguised as discomfort?”
You’re Not Here to Shrink
Every time you expand, you’re not just claiming more for yourself — you’re giving others a roadmap for what’s possible.
Brené Brown says it best:
“Courage is contagious. Every time we choose courage, we make everyone around us a little better and the world a little braver.”
So the next time you’re afraid of being “too much,” remember: your job isn’t to shrink. Your job is to mesmerize. Your job is to inspire.
And if you’d like to see how this came through in a real Akashic Records session, I share the full vision of how crowds shifted from attack to admiration in my YouTube video.
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